i think..

Alright I think I figured out why people stay in the friend zone. The people that want to be friends just because they don't want to loose the other person, just don't make sense. Friends loose friends for whatever reason. Thats just a reason why not to date someone. People need to start trying to figure out why they would date the other person and why not. So for example

Jane and Bobby are friends. Jane is attracted to Bobby but he isn't attracted to Jane. *yes i'm switching it up* So although Jane is throwing the hints to Bobby, he just isn't getting it. One day they're alone and Jane gets the courage to ask Bobby if he wants to be with her. Well he declines and Jane just takes it. Then Bobby explains that he doesn't want to loose her as a friend but tells her all these good things about her. Jane just takes it.

So now Jane is down about it because she was hoping that he would say yes. They've been friends for years and got along pretty well.

Now what Bobby should have done is tell her that he'll think about it. Gone home and made a list of why and why not. There should be atleast one good reason why he should turn her down. Then talk to her about it.


They're already friends. If they can't go more than that, why are they friends? They should be able to be more than friends unless there's a really big problem.

So if Bobby had a major problem with Jane, he wouldn't be friends with her, right?